Dating your wife during separation
Many times, couples will separate in hopes of saving a marriage. After all, just getting distance from a painful, antagonistic situation can provide you with enough perspective to come back together weeks or months later and sort things out. The man, a newspaper reporter, left his wife in Boston and went on assignment in Russia for a year.
Decisions made during separation often become stamped in stone, and anyone separating without the appropriate strategizing and protections can suffer unpleasant repercussions for years.
A Dallas couple we know opted for a long-distance relationship as a means of gaining perspective.
The decision to separate was facilitated when the woman was offered a job in Des Moines.
Unfortunately, her husband began feeling so resentful when she really left that, ultimately, he could not accept her back into his life.
He felt this way despite the fact that he was the one who had encouraged her to leave in the first place.
If separation is likely to be the first step in your journey to single status, we suggest you enter it seriously and formally—with a signed agreement and full awareness of the potential errors, many of them impossible to reverse later on.